Sherrin, one of the Founding Directors of Fruition Tuition, chats with Greg Cary from the Greg Cary Morning Show on Talk-Back Radio 4BC – AM 1116 about a former Queensland teacher who is suing for more than $400 000.00 in damages due to damage of her larynx:
Read the story on Brisbane Times here.
Yelling at children could well be a form of bullying; yelling can be threatening behaviour; it certainly is a poor way to communicate as it shows the children that the adult has lost control and it teaches the children to yell when they are frustrated. Rarely does yelling solve problems and children learn that they often can ‘trigger’ the same red-in-the face, out-of-control adult yelling response by behaving badly as a group – in a classroom!
If the yelling occurs to single one child in front of the group like a class or a sporting team and if it occurs with stand-over tactics and put downs, and if it occurs regularly, the child’s self-esteem may be damaged. This can lead to long term ‘hurt’ behaviours – insecurity, anger, bullying someone else, approval addiction etc
Even if you have to raise your voice in a classroom – just to get the children’s attention, it is likely that you will have to do so regularly or be ignored. Better to lower your voice ... I have seen classroom teachers not be able to control a class and become a victim to bullying behaviour from the class.
Discipline is about owning natural authority and having influence. One of the greatest ways to have discipline in classrooms is to offer such ‘great’ inspirational learning, that the majority of the class want to participate ... the majority will often ask the minority to quieten down and to do the right thing, so they can enjoy the learning! How much better is that than yelling to get the focused attention and respect that all teachers want from their students?
Yelling in the home is not healthy either. Hurt people end up hurting others ... sometimes what occurred in a parent’s own childhood gets recycled into their own family and the same abuse they experienced is directed towards their own children. Sometimes, the very things we don’t like being done to us, is what we do to others. At other times, parents who have been not treated well in their childhood, learn what not to repeat and can break the cycles.
“One of the best books I have ever read is called “Approval Addiction” by Joyce Meyer”, Sherrin went on to say. It is a Christian book, widely available through Koorong book store in Brisbane 07 3896 8777, Joyce Meyer Ministries – Brisbane office 07 3349 1200 and over the net at http://www.joycemeyer.org/
This fantastic book deals with being abused or what happens if you have adults/parents, who should love you and care for you, mistreat you and you breaking the cycle and not becoming people pleasers, insecure, controlling or manipulating or becoming work alcoholics ... making your accomplishments compensate for your lack of nurturing as a child ....
As parents we have enormous responsibility to have clear from the get go, that we are raising adults – what we teach them and expose them to in our homes and through our communications, will shape their development and adult lives ... read“You are not raising children, you are raising adults”
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